My Precious Firstborn Grandchild, Liam

Our little Liam was stillborn on Tuesday 22nd March 2011 @ 13h30. He was a much-loved little boy growing in his Mama’s tummy. We so looked forward to meeting him. His room was prepared, all his clothes were washed and packed away, his car seat in the car.
I got a phone call at school at 08h30 on the morning of the 22nd March. My son-in-law’s words were..
We have lost Liam….his heart’s not beating.
The worst day of our lives….. he was a beautiful little boy, perfectly formed with huge eyes and brown hair.
We mourn our loss every day. Liam is thought about every day. We celebrate his birthday, Easter, Christmas etc by planting a tree and sending up balloons to Heaven.
His sister, Lana, was born 11 months to the day that he died. She is an absolute blessing and the light of our lives. She knows that she has a big brother in Heaven and talks about him. She shares all her milestones with him too.
Losing a child is the worst thing that could happen to any family… mother, father, siblings and grandparents alike, mourn the loss with absolute sadness.
A Little Lifetime Foundation helped me a lot… all the way from Ireland to Cape Town, South Africa.
I could light a candle whenever I felt sad ( which was most of the time).
We don’t cry anymore….. we shed a tear on special days… but time has healed our wounds. Liam’s sister has not taken his place but she has helped us to overcome our grief…. she is the sunshine in our lives and we are truly grateful and blessed that we have her.
All my love
Granny Margie xxx

Never Forgotten

Today is the day before our daughters 28th birthday, and I felt that today I would write about her. Lucy-Anne was born on a beautiful sunny July day in 1993. weighing in at 8lbs 10oz, with beautiful black hair just like her Daddy. It is a lifetime ago to some but to us it is only like the blink of an eye. Lucy-Anne was our first born and a very much wanted baby. Sadly her time with us was not to be and she was Still-born on July 27th 1993. We only found out the day before that she had passed away and sadly there was no medical reason for her passing, which in itself was difficult to take. As if you have a reason, it means you can process it, but without a reason, it seems so senseless. However Lucy-Anne was and has remained a huge part of all our lives. We went on to have two beautiful sons, now young men, who speak about their sister as if they too had known her. We marked all the milestones in her life, her communion, confirmation, 18th and 21st birthdays, and there is hardly a day that goes by but she is not referred to in some sense. To lose a baby at any stage in pregnancy is unimaginable. But to keep their memory alive is of utmost importance. Speak about them often, cry for the life they would have had but most of all remember them with love. They will always be a part of your family.

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